Joyce Oscar

A Trip to the Land of OZ: A Woman's Perspective



Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011

by Joyce Oscar
Agaphe Publishing

We all know the story The Wizard of OZ. As children, we were fascinated with the Scarecrow, Tin Man, Cowardly Lion and even Dorothy. Where is this leading? I’m glad you asked. We, as women, are sometimes so caught up with just having a “MAN” that we get into a relationship and we’re miserable. Let’s face it, out of all the things we want in a man, there are four things that are a MUST. A good man must be masculine, courageous, affectionate and intellectual. We don’t have time for that “Wizard of Oz” man.

First, watch out for the Cowardly Lion. Although he may be big and strong on the outside, on the inside he’s a wimp. He’s afraid to take chances and step outside of his comfort zone. He’s not willing to try new things because he knows nothing about them. Instead, he criticizes them. He’s afraid to chase his dreams for fear of failing so he’ll try to destroy yours. He fears commitment because he thinks it means losing his freedom, so he’ll cheat on you every chance he gets and make it seem like you’ve done something wrong. He’s also the type that will fill your heart with dreams of everafter and then disappear from your life without even saying goodbye. Girls, just send him packing down the yellow brick road.

Now we all want a man that’s tender, loving and affectionate. However, of course, we have to be aware of the Tin Man. Now this man is stiff and cold he has no heart. He can’t give his love because he really doesn’t love himself. Don’t get him confused with being selfish, he’s not, he just doesn’t care that his actions affect others. Because he has no heart he can use, disrespect, and abuse others with no remorse. In addition, you see ladies, this is the one who will contract an STD and just pass it to others he feels no remorse because he is unable to grieve for himself.

Now the Scarecrow, well this is a no brainer. Right, he has no brain; he can be selfish because he doesn’t know how to figure out what women want. The only thing he knows is what he needs. This individual has probably been raised in a household where his mother has been neglected in some cases. Therefore, this is what he learns. He learns that women will take and withstand his uncaring and un-thoughtful nature. Ladies please don’t fall into this trap. The love, kindness, flowers, passion, these things, he will never think about on his own. Most of the time he just does not think.

All right how about, “Girls Best Friend,” Dorothy. You would think that a man you can talk to, laugh with and shop with would be ideal. Think again. This ideal male will soon become your worse nightmare. Oh, he may be there to comfort you in a time of distress, but soon you find that he has become more of a sister than a boyfriend and how many of us are intimate with our sisters. He will begin to whine and complain to you about everything. His problems become bigger than yours. You end up becoming his problem solver and his way maker. You may come home one day to find him prancing in front of the mirror with your under ware on.

The trip to OZ would not be complete without our friend Toto. That’s right ladies, It’s not his fault; it’s just “the DOG in him.” Toto is pretty much a combination of most of the fore-mentioned characters. These men are abusers, liars, cheaters, fakes and usually end up tearing your heart apart.They’ll threaten to harm you and won’t blink an eye. Ladies please watch out for that “eye in the sky.” You know the one that you’ll find floating around on the internet once you break up. Yes, that’s right the mighty video tape. You believed him when he said “Nobody will see it but me baby”. We’ve seen a few of those in the media right.These mutts will sleep with your best friend, sister and perhaps even your mother; then he’ll look you straight in the face and make you feel guilty for not trusting him. Avoid this this man and relationship at all costs.
Joyce Oscar is originally from Memphis , Tennessee she now resides in Atlanta Georgia. She loves all forms of music from Country to Jazz. Her repertoire includes poetry, fiction, essays and songs. Her outlook on life translates into her writing. She states, " I believe that poetry is the measured language of emotion. It bears witness to our lives and what we have experienced. It is a celebration of language in its most illustrious, enchanting, and intense form. Poetry has an inimitable power to re-create the human experiences like falling in love, losing love, facing death and disease, losing faith and courage, and finding God. Poems transform the everyday into a creative journey through our imaginations."

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» left by David Tanguay
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I like your analogy of the characters in the wizard of Oz to those in real life, thanks for this article.
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